Mindful Communication with Lucy Draper-Clarke and Felicity Hart
When interacting with others, we often find ourselves triggered and then communicate in ways that hurt or harm – ourselves, the other, or the relationship between us. We have not learnt how to use mindful and authentic communication.
“When you are busy judging people, you have no time to love them.” Marshall Rosenberg
We will practice both intra-personal and inter-personal mindfulness in order to cultivate skills of empathy, compassion and a better understanding of self and other. Contemplative dyads are increasingly being taught in retreat settings as a way to promote social connectedness, something that we are often lacking in daily life where our time is dominated by digital devices. We will practice deep listening in this safe retreat setting, in order to learn skills that can increase feelings of closeness and strengthen relationships with our friends and partners.
Together, these practices will help us communicate more consciously so that we learn to be aware of our feelings and needs, make requests and stay open to the feelings and needs of others.
Mindful Communication Practices
During this retreat at the tranquil Tara Rokpa Centre in North West Province, we will draw on the principles and practices from Non-Violent Communication and Insight Dialogue. These are held within a framework of yoga and mindfulness, in order to increase awareness, compassion and ease with ourselves and others. We will combine sitting practices with gently mindful movement practices too (yoga and qigong).
Although, we want to communicate honestly, but haven’t been taught to do so. Very often, we desire to share our feelings and needs, but fear that they won’t be heard or that our needs will remain unmet.
The retreat will show us a way of being very honest, without any criticism, insults or put-downs. We learn to be aware of our feelings and needs, make requests and stay open and respond to the feelings and needs of others.
The principles and practices you will learn on this retreat, will help you communicate consciously and with compassion. We learn to increase our capacity to communicate in a way that helps us to connect, find what is alive in ourselves and others in order to create relationships built on authenticity and understanding.
Who Can Attend?
If you resonate with any of the sentences below, this retreat may be especially helpful for you:
* I was taught to think and communicate in ways that involved judgment
* I am not aware of my own feelings and needs and those of others
* I am afraid that speaking honestly could be unskillful, leading to harm and hurt within my relationships
* I have been afraid to express anger, or other difficult emotions, without causing harm or feeling ashamed of my own feelings
* I fear connecting and being curious about what is alive in myself, without judgement.
Lucy Draper-Clarke has a PhD in mindfulness and has practised yoga for 20 years. Her light-hearted approach to teaching allows participants to learn through a joyful, yet transformative practice.
Felicity Hart is a life coach, yoga teacher and mindfulness facilitator. She has a PGC in Mindfulness-Based Interventions from Stellenbosch and offers life coaching that is mindful of you as a whole person, facilitating a deep and integrative process.
To book with the Tara Rokpa Centre, follow this link.
Retreat cost includes accommodation (including bedding and towels), all meals, snacks and tea, facilitation fee and an optional R60 environmental levy (deduct if you prefer).
Single room, shared bathroom: R3060
Twin/double, en suite: R2880
Twin/double, shared bathroom: R2660
If you would like to attend, but cannot afford to do so, please get in touch for discounted rates or volunteer trade options.
For general retreat information, click here
The food is ovo-lacto vegetarian. Gluten free options available (please mention any food preferences when booking). Please bring extra provisions if you are vegan. Please bring your own ground coffee if you prefer this to instant coffee – French presses provided.